Loosing the weight of pain and grief!

Hi,
This is Alisha. I gave a lot of thought that why my weight increased so much. I always used to eat a lot of carbs but what else happened that made me overeat and gain weight. I think there were several reasons, I had no job, I had a degree but it was of no use. I could not cope up with the struggle and emptiness in my life. Suddenly after college many things changed. We had to find a way to be independent. Being at home doing nothing, loss of friends(as they migrated to other cities or countries for their job) was my failure. I could not really understand what was going around, the recession was at peak that time. I used to stay at home watch TV, surf the internet sitting on the couch. I used to love dancing before but I really lost all interest in everything I earlier did and things which were around me. To get rid of my boredom I used to eat, eat and eat. I was hesitant to appear in public. My life sucked! After two months I was in depression, my doctor spotted, She very sweetly talked to me and convinced me to go to psychologist. I talked to her about my weight also, she said emotional factors play a vital role in the weight gain and hormonal imbalances. She took many tests, my blood test, thyroid check up, she suspected I may be hypo thyroid or hyperthyroid. But I was fine.


On my first meeting with my psychologist it was very tough for me to open up, but I told her my fears, how I am not happy about my past or what my boyfriend did to me or my parents don't care(which actually is not true, they were always very good to me but due to  my depression I saw everything negatively). She told me I just need to go out and find something good to do, something creative and that makes me happy. I also felt that I had enough of this. So , I started painting and cooking, which I eventually started enjoying. My parents, my boyfriend, every one encouraged me to go for higher degree, so I enrolled for GRE, I got the admission in masters. I made new friends. I think this really helped me to be happy again and now I am all set to get rid of my weight.


What I learnt  from my personal experience is we should forgive and forget, whenever we feel negative about the things, its always good to surround yourself with creative things that make you happy(Which may include playing with your dog on beach, etc.....), the first step to weightloss is being happy. By Being happy I don't mean that we can be only happy by becoming rich or becoming famous, being happy means spiritually contented and feeling lighter, which can only happen if we loose the guilt from our heart that weights more than our body weight. We should keep moving on in life, reading positive quotes everyday or some autobiography book of your inspirational hero, helps you to fight through the situation.  Seek the love and support of your family, don't be scared to go out. Be good and people will appreciate you! Aim high!


So, the first thing I am doing for weightloss is that I am trying to be emotionally strong now and I am trying to move on to positivity!I expect that you should also try to find out emotional factors that led to your weight gain and try dealing with them first.